I'm so glad you are joining in, especially for this study. Beth Moore is one of my favorite women's Bible study authors. She knows how to dig in deep to God's Word...and dig in deep to the hearts of women. She is fun, down-to-earth, and so compassionate toward women from all walks of life and all experiences. Her heart is for women to fully realize God's love for them - and I share that desire as well!
Which is why this study is so gripping for me. Insecurity is at the root of so many (maybe most...or all?) of our issues as women. And Beth Moore is downright angry about it! (See Chapter 1 of her book.) Frankly, I am too. I hate it when insecurity creeps up in me, or when I see it crippling the women around me. Thankfully, we can do something about it. This study allows us to join Beth Moore in her journey to discovering true security in Christ. Her goal is for an insecure woman to open the book and a secure woman to close it (Group Experience, pg 3). I hope you are ready!
If you are following along in the print materials, this week's post and discussion questions are based on:
Chapter 1: Mad Enough to Change
Week One - Insecurity: A Bad Friend
*The introduction and Chapter 1 are available for preview at the So Long, Insecurity website, along with some other awesome resources.
"The way I see it, either I can get out in the fresh air and enjoy myself well-equipped, or I can sit in the stale house like a wimp and sulk about a path full of hazards. Throw me a shotgun. I'm not missing life over snakes."
I love that tenacity! And it's with the same boldness we must approach our insecurity. Insecurity may be widespread among women, it might be very present within your own heart, but it is not unbeatable. We all just need to be willing to take a stand and become "well-equipped" for our journey.
Take a moment to think about the presence of insecurity in your own life. Are you face to face with it? At what moments does it creep up? How much do you value yourself, really? And how do you determine your worth?
Some of us may only feel beautiful when our spouses say so. We may only feel intelligent when our boss recognizes our job well done. We my only feel like a good mom when the children behave well in public. Or we may only feel appreciated when someone says thank you.
But Beth Moore asks the tough question: What if no one tells us that? Can we still find a way to be okay? (Chapter 1, pg 5)
The fact is, we cannot use other people as mirrors to determine our worth. No one is capable of the amount of trust and responsibility required to validate someone else. Married women listen up: Not even your spouse!
This week we get a taste of true security and its source:
“Blessed is the man who trusts in the Lord,
And whose hope is the Lord.
For he shall be like a tree planted by the waters,
Which spreads out its roots by the river,
And will not fear when heat comes;
But its leaf will be green,
And will not be anxious in the year of drought,
Nor will cease from yielding fruit."
According to Beth Moore, "...what we don't want [is] a sense of self-worth that balances precariously on someone else's opinion and leaves us fragile, overly sensitive, and unable to look beyond ourselves."
Instead, we need a place we can go where we will be loved for eternity, a source that never runs dry. God knows how fragile we are, and how temporary our existence is. Yet he lavishes us with an everlasting love out of compassion and mercy. Hopefully, as we learn to dwell in the presence of our Father and Creator, the voices of others will become very small.
Bible Verses for Reflection:
Join me in memorizing each week's Bible verse, so we can be well-equipped for life's hazards!
Memorize: Jeremiah 17:7-8
Reflect: Psalm 103:13-18
Feel free to answer just one, or all, of the following questions in your comment post below.
1. Beth Moore postulates that insecurity is an issue most widespread among women, and that the primary basis of our insecurity is founded in our relationships with men (our need for male validation). Do you agree? In what ways do you observe this within society or among those you love?
2. What problems can arises out of our need to be validated by men, or others?
3. Read Jeremiah 17:7-8. In what is security rooted? What does this mean for us?
4. Read Psalm 103:13-18. What does this passage say to you about how God relates to us even when we struggle with insecurity?
5. Can you think of a time that you were able to remain secure in the Lord? What was the result?
Prepare for Next Week:
If you are following along in the printed resources, next week's post will be based on Chapters 2 & 3 of the book, and Week Two in the Group Experience workbook. Feel free to read ahead, or simply let this week's content soak in a bit!